I got the local virus at last! I had hoped that I would avoid it this time seeing that I have done such a lot of work on my immune responses in the last 12 months. To be honest, I have managed to be healthy throughout the winter when everyone else were dropping like flies, so I am not complaining. The other thing is that I am recovering quite rapidly in comparison with my norm. Still I would have preferred……..!
Now that brings me to the topic of my newsletter. The issue of acceptance seems to be in the air. It seems to crop up all over the place, and I can see why. The world we live in is far from perfect and we are given to believe that perfection is what we should be striving for. Indeed, what we should already be. As a result, we are believe that we should have sprung pre-perfected from our mothers womb. Of course, perfection leaves no room for growth, so we would have to have come already in adult form. A tall order for most mothers, I dare say.
No, life is not perfect. Never was and never will be. In fact, perfection brings with it no creativity, no way of becoming more. Its just a static state of ‘having arrived’. Pity we find it so desirable. This situation leaves itself way open to denial. That is, not wanting to see that we are in the process of ‘becoming’ so pretending that everything is as it should be. It also leads to winging. That’s when we constantly beat ourselves and everyone else up for the fact that life, events, people, have a tendency to be in all stages of growth all of the time and are never the perfect beings we would have preferred.
The problem is that we do not live in a reality that has anything to do with perfection and has everything to do with growing and creating. That process is a hit and miss, try again, see what it looks like this time, and adjust as we go along, place. If we are hell bent on denying there is any changes to be made, or have our heads buried in the sand because its all too horrible for words, we are at a distinct disadvantage.
You see, before we can learn what needs to happen next, we have to take a good look at what has already happened. Another way of putting it is that we have to see where we are before we know how to get anywhere else. If we are off in some form of virtual reality, we are, in fact, lost. Still even when lost, we can find ourselves again if we would only stand still for a moment and take stock of our surroundings and see which way the sun sets.
That’s what acceptance is: honestly taking stock of what is! Once we have done that, we can move to the next stage of reading the feedback: what we need to do next to take advantage of the opportunities presenting themselves to us in the current situation.
When we do this we become ‘wise’. If we don’t do this we effectively stay exactly where we are until a crisis comes along of proportions large enough to push us into any form of action. Usually its the wrong sort, done out of desperation, rather than wisdom.
So yes, acceptance is the most important tool we could ever have. It means we look with our eyes and hearts not our fixed thinking. The result is that we do grow and evolve no matter what it is we find ourselves in.
So as I wait until my dearly beloved immune system sorts out the viral invaders, I have spend precious time sorting out my blog, my website, a friends computer, and enjoying an opportunity to stay home and watch sci-fi DVD’s.
Hope you are all well, and look forward to seeing you when the times right.
Blessings Sparrowhawk
